As her close friend you do. I would feel the same way as you if something like that happened to a close friend of mine. With her not doing anything about it, he wont learn that what he did to her was very, very wrong. She didnt deserve it and he should learn that, even if it was for him to get beaten up. Her father would feel the same way except he would probably want to do both: hurt him badly then have him arrested.

Yeah, I agree with everything Micro said.

You sure do.. personally I would be.

I agree with you

I think you have a right to be, she's you friend and you care about her and what happened is a big deal. Something like that changes a person

i competly agree you should be pisses i would want to hert the a$$ hole too...but you have to see it from her pint of view she is embersaded and if she is close to the person she it torn betwin dooing what is right in her mond and what is right in law.

you know what...It would be a true friend to tell the authorities...even if she does disown you..that means that she isint being a real friend..when a woman is in denial of something especially rape, they have been threatened by the rapist or whatever..so yea..if i were you i would..for the safety of your friend..even if she does disown you..she will realize eventually what she lost..

Look thing is if she goes to the authorities, it doesn't stop their, you have to realise that she has to go through all of it again in court whilst she faces her attacker, this can go on for ages, her character and morals would be put through the blender and it can be harrowing. You have every right as a friend to be upset, but she is the one that has to go through it, so lay off for a bit and let her sort this out. Your a damn good mate, she is lucky to have you there for her!

Ok you have a lot of people giving advise, but I can speak from experience, having gone through this twice ( two different guys) You never go to the authorities, EVER!!!!! It has to do with a little something with pride. No we don't want them to get away with what they did but we would rather handle it ourselves. trust me if I ever met either one of those mf's in the streets on a dark night....they wouldn't see morning come...they will get what is coming to them one way or another!!!! Too many people already hate them.

Wow, this is harsh, man, but if this would have happened to me, I wouldn't want anyone to know. I would probably be so angry I'd chop his manlihood off, though, to make sure he didn't do it to anyone again, and I'm seriously not kidding. If she chooses to keep it quiet then, you gotta respect her desicision.

I know you don't know me...but i thought i'd just give my input too! I think you're in a sticky situation regardless. If you don't go to the authorities then this man has got away with what he has done, and most probably going to repeat this sick attack on another innocent female. Then again, you've got to respect her wishes, as people have said it's all about dignity. Because would any woman want to admit to being raped? No. What i suggest, if you haven't already, is talk to her about this. Tell her that by speaking to someone about this she is stopping other woman being violated by this man. If i knew that reporting it may help stop this attack again, i would, no matter how i felt. It's a brave thing to do, and once she has done it she'll feel happier and proud of herself. However, as a friend, you must give advice (not preachy!) and let her choose her path. Hope it's helped!

i think so. friend for me is like a blood: they appear when you bleed. just my two cents

Um ya you do have the right to be upset. But what i don't understand is why she wont go to the police? and it also seems as if she is defending him. There is something that she is not telling you. Are you sure that there isn't anything missing from the story? have you ever seen this guy or met him?

I guess yes... Cause I'll also feel that way too if it happened to someone close to me, like you just blow up like a volcano... And lot of words to say to that bastard, or even make a punching bag out of him..Reporting it behind her back and threatening to erase you, that is kind of a hard decision..If I really value my friendship with this friend, I guess I'll respect her decision but try to convince her more ...

Since you took the time read my profile i took the time to read ALL of yours!! Thanks for the compliment too :) I normally would not respond but I have because i felt it was the right thing to do since you have respected and understood my request.. there on not many fellows who know how to read!! it drives me crazy... but i am starting to ramble... but nice profile you can learn a lot from a persons profile :) well thanks again Tracy

I know the feeling...But sadly,respecting her will is the only thing that can be done.

Ok I realize this is super old. But I just have to say that I know someone who was EXACTLY this way about it. And she forbid her mother from doing anything about it. women are embarrassed. We get embarrassed that we put ourselves in a situation that could cause this to happen to us. and WE HONESTLY BELIEVE we brought it on ourselves. My friend, how didn't want anything done about this says it was because she couldn't bear to see his face again to identify him for the cops or to see him in court. She also could not bare to have to explain what he did to her to a courtroom of people who didn't know her. However, I think that not having gotten it out of her system has messed her up for life. She has a lot of issues she needs to work out and ... who knows if she ever will. Respecting someone's wishes is one thing: but the law is something different. My father taught me that. He is a teacher and he found out some things about his students through me and had to report them to the authorities because of the rules of his job. I've learned that the law is the law and people benefit from laws such as "don't rape someone or you will go to jail." That is a law only made to protect people and help them.