Love is a complicated feeling as we all know; I suppose we can use a pomegranate fruit as a metaphoric symbol.  For those of you who've eaten and enjoyed a pomegranate know that it’s a slow difficult task due to the numerous seeds, yet at the same time a very rewarding task.  So for the sake of my point we can say the seeds are simply obstacles inhibiting us from experiencing​ what ever it is we would like to experience.  Now pomegranates​  are not enjoyable for everyone this all breaks down to perception and how any given persons gustatory system perceives it.  This is metaphorical​ly the same as love.  Based on past experiences "Love"​  is perceived differently,​just like with the pomegranate,​ its tastefulness​  is dependent on such variables such as electrolyte balance and such.  So depending on ones chemical balance in any given sensory portion of the brain and experience may be perceived differently.​ Another analogy is to look at love as a tree in a courtyard.  Picture 5 people standing in a hallway with 5 separate windows overlooking the courtyard.  The angle and portion of the tree we see is all dependent on what we see through our window.  If everyone were to draw what he or she saw, everyone would draw a different picture of the same object.  It’s the same tree just a different perspective of it, like wise with love, it’s the same chemical reaction: ChemRX ultimately being the rate at which Oxytocin receptors fire, its just the way our mind handles processes and responds to this chemical reaction in our brain.  Example, for some, Love could be a feeling much longed for, while for other, Love can be a feeling much feared of due to past experiences.​ If it is handled well we'll experience the three stages of love which are: 1. Lust 2. Attraction and 3. Attachment. Many relationship​s end after stage two.  This is prominent because sadly Love is also used to get a "high."​ Since newly found love releases Serotonin, nor epinephrine and dopamine, All rewarding chemicals, some people go into relationship​s have sex than leave.  This is because while two people have sex, Oxytocin is released, which is a chemical that leads into the final step of love, "Attachment/Commitment."​ What happens when Oxytocin is released is the pathways of which dopamine and nor epinephrine pass through are interfered with and they loose that "Love High" So they leave and move on to the next relationship​  in order to experience their high once again.  Aside from getting a “love high” intentionall​y, some people leave a relationship​ simply due to being naive to the fact that their mind is entering stage three of love, thus they misinterpret​ this chemical change as falling out of love.  This misinterpret​ation is a result of not understandin​g the process of love, so inevitably they hurt their formal significant other who understands and is ready to move on to stage three.  Um, “love hurts when you haven't yet learned to love and its hurt is intended to teach you to love.”



WHY DOES LOVE HURT? </3
Well first things first lets break down the word real quick, the word 'love', is derived from Germanic forms of the Sanskrit lubh (desire). Desire is the strong wanting for something. Our “want” is for that beautiful feeling we feel when we’re in “love.” We don’t always get what we “want.” As you probably already know through experiences,​ there are two extremes to “love” it can range from the most amazing feeling in the world or it’s the worst feeling in the world. This is all dependent on whether we get what we "want"​ or not. (I.e. is the relationship​ going the way you want it? Is there no fighting, is there genuine trust?) And what we want is that “feeling.” Now love is not a perfect science, people fall in love for all sorts of reasons, different traits and qualities trigger that feeling for different people. I could get more in depth with that but that’s not the question so ill write about that another time. Soo back to your question: “Why does Love hurt?”
Pain in a relationship​ is due to not being ready to fulfil one another’s “wants.” For instance you may want to genuinely trust him, but you simply can’t because he’s a big flirt or you just find it hard to trust guys based on past relationship​ s. Love is often taken for granted and used for all the wrong reasons, such as fulfilling sexual desires. For example, the film "A Walk to Remember"​ illustrates this quite well indeed, Landon unlike the "typica​l guy" was able to see past Jamie's social blemishes and find her true beauty with in. So many men look at women as objects for sex rather than human beings, as a result of media and cultural norms, this is why around the world at least 1 woman in 3 has been beaten, coerced into sex or otherwise abused in her lifetime. These numbers are unsettling but it's the truth of how sick and twisted the cultural norms among men are. The worst part is only 2% of rapists are convicted and imprisoned. This is due to the fact that rape in its self is an act very difficult to prove in the court of law there for many cases go unreported. Now I'm starting to get off topic, all I was trying to say is that the majority of men see "love"​ in the wrong way and don't really understand that they're hurting "her"​ who ever she may be… but anyways so let's get back to my point. So the purpose of love hurting is so that we can learn to Value love and not take it for granted! Now I’m not saying we're not “ready” to fall in love, Its just more often than not we're going to experience ups and downs in our relationship​s, some worse than others, but this should not discourage us from experiencing​ true love. We will one-day experience it; when or with whom I can not answer. Its just Humans were made for many of things, and loneliness is not one of them! I used to always tell myself, “Every relationship​ I go through and get hurt is a stab through my heart, and I’m just not sure how many stabs my heart was built to take.” –quote. But learn not to look at these relationship​s as painful experiences but rather as learning experiences.​ All in all… love hurts when you haven't yet learned to love and its hurt is intended to teach you to love. <3

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