ok...ive got a friend who lets jus put it in one simple way...is 'hot n cold'...which means one day shes all nice n sweet n totally the way u wld love her...then the nxt day shes mean n gvn u or athr ppl sme extremely evil looks....lets start ny sayin, she was sweet, friendly approachable, and everythng u can thnk of as sweet n innocent....n now she is jus a cold heartless B$&CH..shes forever lieing, cheatin, being mean for no good reason, is a total loser now that all her friends(a group of ma closest friends) have dumped her, acts lyk shes the queen n no 1 realy ever liked her in the first place..the only reason she even had any friends was because of me (sounds snobby...but true ,100%)!!....n now tht shes differnt n we rnt tlkin 2 her ,shes doin everythng i do, tryin her best to be lyk me n win me over again...i was goin 2 forgive her n i was goin 2 apologise but i thought better of it when she lashed out at me when i was being nice n started spreadin romours abt me........

so..my main questin is..was i right to put her on exile where i dnt tlk 2 her n i dnt hng out wit her?.......she still can tlk 2 othr ppl but i dnt tlk 2 her.....so am i right or am i wronge?

pls comment...

Well, that's a little bit complicated and im not sure if i had understood the whole sitution. How did you learn to know each other, do you go to school together? And the other friend too?
And did she was sweet, friendly, nice etc. at start and now mean, liar, cheater etc. or is it a change between the days (so one day like this, one day like that..)?
Now to you: Did you try to talk with her in a normal way before you stopped talking to her? I think it's very important to try to smooth such a thing over (i hope that's the right expression xD ) while talking.
If you ingnore her without a caution, she doesn't understand the situation and the reaction rightly.
How does she behave? Does she fight for your friendship or does she ignore you, too?
So to your special question: it is right to do something, she can not behave like that in a friendship. But at first you should talk with her etc., after that you can omit to speak with her

yes we go 2 skul 2gthr...snce we wer in 1st grade.....we only became friens in the 7th grade.....there is only 1 frien...scratch that, grl who is an outcast.....

the thing is i hve tlkd 2 her abt it..very simply but..she denies her actions completely...so i thought i dnt want 2 fight wit her..so i jus stopped tlkn 2 her..stopped caring abt her n her fakeness and jus stopped being stressed abt it! to say the truth after is topped being friends wit her..i felt sooo much better thn ive ever felt..i actually feel so bloody HAPPY am surprised at my rection 2 the freedom of not carin so much!......n i dnt thnk ill ever hve a change of heart for a longtime........i hve new friens who arnt borin, who dnt complain all the time, who can tke jokes, who are FUN!, n mke me feel good abt myself!...n i dnt tnhk its bad when smethng makes me feel soo AMAZING!..is it bad?

Wow!
In my opinion, it|s good.
Some people would saz it would be unfair against her, but i think if zou tried to talk to her and she denies everzthing, it|s a verz good decision to don|t fight with her and continue to live a happz life without her!

I think you made the right decision, if she wasn't one of those close bond kind of friends I wouldn't keep her either. I had a friend like that and she tried to be my friend and I told her the only issue I had with her and apparently she didn't like that so she left me alone.

Cestral wrote:

I think you made the right decision, if she wasn't one of those close bond kind of friends I wouldn't keep her either. I had a friend like that and she tried to be my friend and I told her the only issue I had with her and apparently she didn't like that so she left me alone.

n dnt u feel beta without her?

niki1415 wrote:

Cestral wrote: I think you made the right decision, if she wasn't one of those close bond kind of friends I wouldn't keep her either. I had a friend like that and she tried to be my friend and I told her the only issue I had with her and apparently she didn't like that so she left me alone. n dnt u feel beta without her?

Of course I do! She always wanted you to be there for her but she was never there for you.

Cestral wrote:

niki1415 wrote: Cestral wrote: I think you made the right decision, if she wasn't one of those close bond kind of friends I wouldn't keep her either. I had a friend like that and she tried to be my friend and I told her the only issue I had with her and apparently she didn't like that so she left me alone. n dnt u feel beta without her? Of course I do! She always wanted you to be there for her but she was never there for you.

exactly! shes alway me me me...even if her parents r hvn problems at hme it doesnt mean u hve 2 mke my lyf hell by complainin abt everytin!....shes jus....i dnt knw anymre...i hate fightin wit ppl coz its a headache..n so ive been tlkn 2 her, n being nice stuff lyk tht n teln her when we go out...u knw try 2 include her coz we all share the sme friends but thy kinda lyk me more coz she whiney n borin at tmes...but am tryin ma best not 2 be mean 2 her.......its good 2 try dnt u thnk?

i used to be your "friend" years ago in high school. I made alot of mistakes. The biggest of all was thinking the friends around me actually cared about me. Most of what i did or said i didnt even realize it was annoying or pissing people off. I just was looking for attention. If i wouldve had real friends that went out of there way to try and help me rather than dump me and put me in exile maybe i would be a better person for today.

advice: be a friend....a REAL friend, not someone who judges according to actions. Talk to your "friend" try to understand why she acts the way she does and try to help her. Dont talk about her behind her back...that makes you no better than she is. And it makes you worthy of the treatment you are giving her. Dont go down that raod, dont be that person...rather..... be a friend to her.