BreakTheGame wrote:

geousa wrote: I'm in a long distance relationship and NO you dont need to meet the person first to make an official relationship... Anyway, we'll meet in a couple of weeks and i'm so excited about it. I do believe you need to meet the other and something happens ( Not especially sex, but just kisses if you want, affection blabla ) to make it official. Just my point of view.

I disagree with the fact that you need to meet the person first to make it official. Of course a long distance relationship isnt the same as a relationship you have when she lives in the same city you live. Believe it or not, you share a lot more in a long distance relationship than in a regular relationship because there are so many things you give for granted when you have the person just minutes away from you.

Well, that's a question of point of view I guess. I'm kinda in this situation but I don't want to call it a relationship. Not to feel free and do other stuffs and flirting with girls for fun.
But I can't say myself, and the world, I am in a relationship. I guess I'm too "scared" it's not done yet.

I have gone through the exact same thing. I met this very kind, 22 year-old guy here, and I considered him handsome (redhead, pretty face). So one day he came up with that he liked me as well... And then, suddenly, he stopped talking to me, when I told him I wasn't going to have sex on a first date - neither on a second. I want to wait with that 'till I have found a REALLY nice guy with whom I'm in a long relationship. Not just shag anyone I meet.

So yeah. Familiar with the feeling.

Rebeccablabla wrote:

I have gone through the exact same thing. I met this very kind, 22 year-old guy here, and I considered him handsome (redhead, pretty face). So one day he came up with that he liked me as well... And then, suddenly, he stopped talking to me, when I told him I wasn't going to have sex on a first date - neither on a second. I want to wait with that 'till I have found a REALLY nice guy with whom I'm in a long relationship. Not just shag anyone I meet. So yeah. Familiar with the feeling.

Guys are guys, sorry. :/

BreakTheGame wrote:

Rebeccablabla wrote: I have gone through the exact same thing. I met this very kind, 22 year-old guy here, and I considered him handsome (redhead, pretty face). So one day he came up with that he liked me as well... And then, suddenly, he stopped talking to me, when I told him I wasn't going to have sex on a first date - neither on a second. I want to wait with that 'till I have found a REALLY nice guy with whom I'm in a long relationship. Not just shag anyone I meet. So yeah. Familiar with the feeling. Guys are guys, sorry. :/

Your argument is invalid. You can hardly speak for every guy on the earth

Rebeccablabla wrote:

BreakTheGame wrote: Rebeccablabla wrote: I have gone through the exact same thing. I met this very kind, 22 year-old guy here, and I considered him handsome (redhead, pretty face). So one day he came up with that he liked me as well... And then, suddenly, he stopped talking to me, when I told him I wasn't going to have sex on a first date - neither on a second. I want to wait with that 'till I have found a REALLY nice guy with whom I'm in a long relationship. Not just shag anyone I meet. So yeah. Familiar with the feeling. Guys are guys, sorry. :/ Your argument is invalid. You can hardly speak for every guy on the earth

Yeah and I'm a guy too. But it's still often like that, moreover when Internet makes things easier. Of course, I'm over globalizing, but you got it.

geousa wrote:

Lovingwestly001 wrote: @ geousa It didn't feel right, like I was the only one workin to make a relationship, and all he wanted to talk about was himself as if he didn't care about me. And breaking up seemed to suit him but made me feel like crap. In this case I think the only person who was in a relationship was you then. All he needed was attention and he found that in you. A relationship is a give and take thing not just receiving, if you know what I mean. Sorry to say that, but I think you are better off without him.

Yeah I know that's how I should feel, but it still kinda hurts, you know?

situation 1: guy says he loves girl, girl doesn't put out, guy leaves, girl cries.

situation 2: guy says he loves girl, girl puts out, guy leaves, girl cries.

Sad to say, but when you're a guy, don't say you love a girl

He isn't really in love with you I don't think, if two people are really in love building a relationship should not feel like work, you will attract naturally to each other, and be naturally curious about each other. People who love each other always want to know more about the other. It's due to the Halo effect in psychology, they love what little they know about you, and then assume everything else about you must be fantastic .

M_P_E wrote:

Lovingwestly001 wrote: No I haven't met him. It's long distance, so he's across the country That's not really a relationship, and surely not a situation where real love exist(s/ed). That is/was two people dreaming up a "relationship" which, when they really got down to it, wasn't all that satisfying because it wasn't all that real. Stick with people you can interact with in the real world as relationship partners.

I strongly disagree, this implies that what makes a relationship is physical, and nothing more. I just find it odd that most people are against purely physical definitions of a relationship, but with online dating people kick it down quite quickly, social stigma at work.

Now on a somewhat unrelated note I strongely agree with BreakTheGame , a guy should avoid those words for as long as possible, but I also think a girl should as well. Sadly, the more love you express to someone, the less they will feel like giving, because love is a container that two people fill, and if one fills it too much the other feels like it's not worth filling anymore. I've been on both sides, had a filler who wouldn't stop filling, and plenty who didn't contribute enough leaving me starving for love.