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alifia-zahra   

Zahra, 31 y.o.
Sidoarjo, Indonesia [Current City & Hometown]

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Bachelor's degree

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freelance

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Single


Joined 9 years ago, profile updated 4 years ago.

Displaying posts 1 to 10 of 196.
Reply - Conversation - 13 hours ago
There are times in life when crowds tire the soul. Laughter becomes noisy, conversation feels empty, and the presence of many no longer provides a sense of companionship. At that point, happiness comes not from cheers or recognition, but from distance. Isolating oneself isn't because of hatred for people, but because the heart needs space to breathe without demands, without roles, without masks.

Solitude is often misunderstood as an escape, but it can actually be a path to healing. In silence, people stop comparing their lives to others. There's no competition, no judgment, no need to appear good. The human psyche indeed needs a break, and a soul forced to adapt to crowds for too long will lose its true voice. Solitude provides an opportunity to re-hear the whispers of the heart long neglected.

Philosophically, humans only truly meet themselves when no one is watching. In the presence of crowds, we tend to become the version we're expected to be. In the presence of silence, we are forced to be honest. Therein arise the most fundamental questions about the meaning of life, the direction of our steps, and who we truly want to become. Solitude becomes an honest, if sometimes painful, mirror.

In solitude, our relationship with God finds a different depth. Prayer is no longer a routine, but a necessity. Silence transforms into an intimate inner dialogue. Many people find peace precisely when they withdraw from the hustle and bustle of the world, for it is there that the heart ceases to depend on humans and begins to rely entirely on God.

So don't be afraid of the phase of isolation. Not everyone who withdraws is lost. Some are returning to themselves. And often, true happiness is not found amidst crowds, but is born from the courage to sit quietly, alone, and make peace with who we truly are.
Reply - Conversation - Dec 27
Human sadness often stems not from harsh reality, but from a hasty heart and an impatient mind that accepts fate. Many inner wounds are created not because life is too cruel, but because desires exceed the prescribed rhythm. Humans suffer not simply from not having what they have, but from forcing it before its time, before their souls are mature enough to bear it.

Wanting something before its time is a subtle form of anxiety. The heart refuses to go along with the process; it wants the result without the journey. Yet, every delay is often a form of safeguarding. When something comes too quickly, it doesn't necessarily bring blessings. Time is not man's enemy, but a teacher shaping maturity. Sadness arises when humans become hostile to time and feel life is holding them back from happiness.

Wanting more than the prescribed amount is a sadness that stems from an inability to feel content. At this point, humans no longer enjoy what they have because their minds are busy calculating what they haven't achieved. Yet, destiny isn't about how little or how much, but about sufficiency. Many people appear abundant but are poor inside, because their hearts have never learned to stop asking. Sadness grows when desire outweighs gratitude.

Wanting what others have is the most exhausting form of sadness. It causes people to lose sight of their own lives. The heart is busy looking left and right, comparing its fate to that of others, as if life were a race. Yet, every person has a different path, different trials, and different happiness. Jealousy not only steals peace but also destroys sincerity.

Ultimately, peace is born not from the fulfillment of all desires, but from the heart's alignment with destiny. When people learn to wait, be content, and stop comparing, sadness loses its home in the soul. The heart returns to its original state: calm, open, and trusting that what comes comes in its own time, and what goes away was never meant to stay.
Reply - Conversation - Dec 26
I'M NOT PERFECT

If you want to find someone more comfortable than me, go ahead.

If you want to find someone better than me, go ahead too.

Because there are many people in this world who are better than me. But if you ask,
Why can't I find someone better than you?

The answer is, if I still want to find something better,
then I won't find the best.

One thing you need to remember:
The best and the perfect are created together, not sought...✍️
Reply - Conversation - Dec 26
A wise person loves with a clear heart, discerning appearances and sweet words, and remaining faithful to a sincere soul even as time wears away appearances.

Fools, meanwhile, are captivated by fleeting brilliance, drawn to a beautiful yet fragile and easily faded appearance.

One love is as firmly rooted as a tree, while the other withers like a plastic flower—brilliant for a moment, empty forever.
Reply - Conversation - Dec 23
God created humans not simply to exist and fill space. Every life has a purpose, even if that purpose is often not immediately apparent. Many people get lost not because their lives are misguided, but because they forget to ask why they are walking. Without purpose, days become just another meaningless, repetitive routine.

The purpose of life isn't always about grand or glorious things. Sometimes it comes in simple forms: growing better, being useful to those around them, or remaining faithful to the values ​​they believe in. When someone realizes that their life has a reason, their steps become more steady. They are less easily envious, less easily swayed, because they know what they are building.

A life without purpose makes fatigue feel pointless. Conversely, a life with purpose makes fatigue feel worthwhile. When they fall, they know why they have to get back up. When they doubt, they know where to turn. Because a person who understands the reason for their existence will not waste their life on something that is not worth it.
Reply - Conversation - Dec 21
The scariest thing about love isn't separation, but the unclear intentions hidden behind affection. There's a love that never truly wants to take responsibility, but also isn't willing to let go. It's present halfheartedly, yet demands full presence. In this kind of relationship, someone is held without ever truly embraced, cared for without ever being chosen. And that's where wounds begin to grow slowly, silently.

Psychologically, this kind of love is born of fear, not maturity. Fear of being alone, fear of losing validation, fear of emptiness, but also fear of commitment. So, love becomes an emotional support, not an honest bond. People who love this way often don't realize they're holding the other person in a gray area, making them hope without certainty, hold on without direction.

Philosophically, true love always contains courage. The courage to choose or let go. When someone doesn't dare to possess but also doesn't dare to lose, what's really happening is a desire for control without responsibility. Love turns into a subtle form of ego, because what's being protected isn't the other person's happiness, but rather one's own sense of security.

In social life, this kind of love is often considered normal, even romantic. In fact, it's a form of emotional injustice. A person deserves to be loved clearly, not hung up on feelings that are never named. Because healthy love always provides room for growth, not space for entrapment.

So if one day you find yourself in a love that keeps you waiting without certainty, perhaps the most important question is no longer whether he loves you, but whether that love is saving you or slowly destroying you.
✍️
Reply - Conversation - Dec 18
There are times when the human heart forgets how fragile it is. It clings to something ephemeral as if it were the safest place. It places its hopes in other human beings as if they could guarantee everything it desires. On the surface, this seems natural. We all want to be loved, understood, accompanied, and trusted. But deep within, there is an unseen spiritual mechanism. When the heart clings too tightly to something outside the Owner of the heart, its inner balance begins to waver. Excessive expectations of creatures slowly turn into a source of pain that teaches lessons that comfort cannot.

Sometimes, feelings of devastation are not evidence of a cruel world, but a subtle message that we have misplaced our soul's center of gravity. We often forget that humans have limits, while our hopes do not. Once the heart rests on something fragile, it will feel the tear when its support can no longer hold. Spirituality teaches that the highest love is only secure when directed toward the One who does not change, does not tire, and does not disappoint. The pangs of hope are not mere pain, but rather a subtle reminder that there is a beauty higher than human love: closeness to the Owner of all hearts.

1. Hope Resting on Others

Hope in humans often arises from a psychological need for security and connection. However, humans are limited. They have inner turmoil, imperfection, and uncertainty. When we place too much hope in them, we are actually demanding something they cannot provide. This is where disappointment arises. From a spiritual perspective, disappointment is not punishment, but a way for someone to re-examine where their heart truly lies.

2. Pain That Teaches the Way Home

The pain that comes from excessive dependence often causes a person to pause and reflect. They begin to realize that what they have been pursuing may not be the right place to rely. Pain is like a small light that penetrates the darkness of the ego, reminding the heart that it has a safer home. In the inner dimension, God cares for His servants in ways that sometimes seem harsh, but are actually full of love. He draws lost hearts back to Him.

3. Divine Jealousy as a Form of Love

In spiritual traditions, it is believed that the human heart was created to have a single, supreme center of love. When that center is shifted by something temporary, divine jealousy emerges in the form of a test. It is not human jealousy, but pure jealousy, which keeps the heart from being destroyed by dependence on the ephemeral. It wants the heart to be whole, strong, and connected to an inexhaustible source of strength. This is the jealousy that actually saves.

4. Dependence That Must Be Unraveled

Many wounds arise not because others are evil, but because the heart is too dependent. Dependence often becomes a psychological trap that prevents us from being free and clear in our love. When God releases us from that dependence through pain, He is actually liberating us. He
Reply - Conversation - Dec 4
Sometimes people are so busy appearing intelligent that they forget that wisdom also lies in a willingness to remain ignorant. There are times when conquering ego is far more important than displaying intelligence. In certain situations, a little ignorance can save us from pointless conflict, exhausting debate, or having to explain things that don't need explaining.

Feigning ignorance can provide a space for deeper observation. When others are swept up in emotion or feel the need to assert superiority, well-managed silence becomes a form of self-control. In this way, one can discern motives, the direction of the conversation, and hidden intentions without having to engage in energy-wasting frenzy.

Willful ignorance is not a weakness, but a strategy for maintaining sanity. Someone who chooses to stay out of the flow of an argument or avoids ego battles is practicing a more refined form of intelligence. In a world that is quick to judge, choosing to appear unassuming at the right moment is a sign that someone understands the value of composure over simply appearing intelligent.
Reply - Conversation - Dec 1
There are people who appear soft-spoken and well-mannered, as if their life is all about pleasing you, but their sincerity doesn't necessarily match their appearance; and there are others who appear distant, cold, even hurtful,

but inside, they harbor genuine respect even as they grapple with their own weaknesses.

From both of them, we learn that people aren't always seen from their outward appearance, for every heart carries a story, fears, and secret struggles...✍️
Reply - Conversation - Nov 29
I used to think that love was always about possession. As if affection had to be reciprocated, closeness had to be maintained, and someone's existence had to remain within a circle we could monitor. But time has slowly taught us that love is never built on possession. It grows from willingness, from the realization that humans never belong to anyone. We only entrust our hearts temporarily, then hand them back to our respective journeys.

This understanding doesn't come overnight. It comes from the experience of loss, from the anxiety of seeing someone we love choose their own path, from the inner struggle between holding on or letting go. Slowly, we begin to realize that mature love doesn't force. It actually gives us space, even when that space distances us from someone who was once so close. There's pain, of course. But there's also a slowly growing relief when we understand that love means respecting another person's destiny as we respect our own.

1. Love is space, not a cage

Healthy love gives breath to two souls to grow. Within that space, there's no urge to dominate or demand. We learn to enjoy togetherness without attachment, and accept separation without resentment. This space becomes a place where love is not forced, but allowed to flow naturally.

2. Acceptance means understanding that everyone has their own path.

When someone chooses a different path, it doesn't mean we're not worthy enough. It's simply a sign that life has other plans for them, and for us. Acceptance is a form of inner maturity, when we no longer ask why, but instead learn to see that the human journey is not always parallel.

3. Loss teaches maturity more than anything else.

Loss often erases the illusions we've held onto. From there, we learn that love isn't about holding on to everything we want, but about growing ourselves in the process of letting go. Every wound becomes a doorway to a broader understanding of humanity and all its fragility.

4. Loving without possessing brings greater peace of mind.

There's a serenity that only arises when we stop forcing a particular outcome. We begin to see that another person's happiness is also part of our own. From this point, love becomes clearer. It no longer craves recognition. It simply wants to give, understand, and remain warm, even from a distance.

5. Letting go is not the end, but the truest form of love

When we are willing to see someone walk in a different direction, we are practicing one of the most valuable forms of love. We allow them to be themselves, without our shadow holding them back or controlling them. There are tears, there is silence, but within it lies a deep respect for the freedom of the human spirit.

If love always teaches us something, then the question is: what lesson is life really teaching you right now? ✍️
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