Don't think in terms of forever. Think of now, and forever will take care of itself.

Grow up together, constantly.

Expect to invest a great deal of time and energy in your relationship.

Lasting relationships don't just happen, they are created.

Recognize that all relationships cannot be forever.

Recognize their temporary quality, but continue to act as if they are permanent.

Respect the other person's relationships apart from you. If they are important to the one you care about, they should be important to you.

Never idealize others. They will never live up to your expectations.

Take your time. 

Don't be afraid of giving. You can never give too much, if you're giving willingly.

Don't feel as if you are required to spend every waking hour with those you love. Move aside from time to time and allow them a separate space too.

Never force anyone to do anything for you in the name of love. Love is not to be bargained for.

Don't over analyze your relationships.

Realize that you always have choices. It's up to you.

Remember that a relationship is a pooling of resources. It means that with each relationship you are not only giving,but you are becoming more.

Don't allow relationships to burden your heart; rather use it to become more aware and sensitive.

Don't smother each other. No one can grow in shade.

Don't lose in touch with the craziness in you.

This, with a large dose of caring, will assure that your relationship will never be boring.

Don't brood. Get on with living and loving. You don't have forever.

Don't hold on to anger. They steal your energy and keep you from love.

There are times when you want to give up on a relationship but never give up on relating.

Learn to listen. You don't learn anything from hearing yourself talk.

Expect what is reasonable, not what is perfect.

Write down all the reasons why you love each person you relate with.Then, when the going gets tough, take the list outand reread it. It resolves problems quickly.

After an argument is over, forget it.

Don't become involved in pettiness, ego and childish hurts. Those will only serve to degrade your relationship and prevent closeness.

Learn to bend. It's better than breaking.

Since love can be created, there is no reason to be loveless.

Even though you are only half of a relationship, you must remain a whole person, apart from the relationship.

Remember that moral and spiritual values don't restrict, they protect.

Don't fall in love with love, you'll die with its complexities.

Don't allow your relationships to die of neglect.


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guidelines from Oprah Winfrey...


If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends".

A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

You cannot change a man's behavior.

Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job.

Do not make him into a quasi-god.

He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are!

Never borrow someone else's man.

If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending... compromise is two way street.

a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...

look for someone complimentary... not supplementary.

Make him miss you sometimes...
when a man always knows where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.

Share this with other women and men (just so they know)...

You'll make someone smile, another rethink her/his choices, and another woman prepare, and a man aware.